Have Courage and Be Kind

When I was engaged, I told my now husband that I was worried about getting married. I was worried that we would never have anything to talk about once we had been together for so long because we had already talked about everything. I was worried that I would never be able to reach my potential or live my dreams out because I was going to stop everything once I got married. I haven't been married for very long, but from the few years of marriage I have I can say that my husband and I can talk with each other for hours and still have more to say, I have grown so much since I have gotten married, and my dreams have changed for the better. 

When you reach gridlock in a marriage, you get stuck and feel like your dreams haven't been met or realized by your partner. I have seen many couples sacrifice their dreams for their spouse, but they never gain new dreams and I often see this tear them apart and cause marital problems. Something I have seen help this (and yes I know everyone says this for everything), is communication. Sharing your wants and ideas with your partner and talking to them about the future is the best way to let them know what your goals are. You can't read their mind and they can't read yours, so open communication is the only way to understand each other and know what your dreams and goals are so you can work towards them as a couple. 

This week, I have also been thinking about having a softer heart and being more open to your spouse. For another class I am in, we have to pick a goal to work on to become better people. The item I am working on is patience. As I have been working on this. I have come to learn that it all has to do with what we choose to do not what the other person does. Our spouse can be exactly the same but depending on how we react and look at things can change the situation entirely. It is up to us to decide to suck it up and be the better person.

To bring these two thoughts together, it reminds me of a quote from one of my favorite princesses. She says to have courage and to be kind. We need to have courage to step out of our comfort zone if we need to and talk to our spouse. We also need to realize that it is up to us if we are kind or not.